Sometimes the best conversations happen in those moments when we least expect them. As I share my journey with friends and strangers alike, I am being blessed by some of the most engaging conversations. Many conversations I am having with myself…what is that saying -“One advantage of talking to yourself is that you know at least somebody’s listening.” [Franklin P. Jones]
As I go through this journey, there is a ton of time I spend talking to myself – and for the first time in years – I am listening too. As I listen, I am creating new conversations.
Some conversations are simple reminders…such as ‘Donna, you need to think about the day ahead’ is my reminder that I can’t eat on the run like I used to and I need to schedule time to eat so I am not rushing through my food experiences. Or “put it on the calendar” is my way of keeping myself accountable for exercising and taking care of myself. Here is a good one – ‘slow down and enjoy the moment’ translate to relax, it is okay to take your time.
Recently, Bryan Dodge and I were discussing my journey. He asked me a very poignant question: What do I see and where do I see myself in two years? As Bryan said, ‘you are hearing what others are saying about your transformation’ but ‘what are you seeing’? Bryan, you do challenge me sometimes.
Right now, I am not sure what I see. Physically, I see the changes happening – smaller waist (under 40″ for the first time in YEARS!), a chin line – didn’t even know I had one, a neck line – wow that was a new discovery! and smaller clothes – that is getting expensive! BUT the challenge in a journey like this is what one sees in their mind’s eye when they look in the mirror…I struggle with the image that I have carried with me for so long – the person who used to carry 278 # around.
As I am now 3 months post surgery and officially 65# lighter – so close to breaking the 200# barrier – I am slowly and I mean slowly making a shift in what I “see” in the mirror.
With that shift in my image also comes a shift in my confidence…I believe more in who I am as a person; I am more confident when I speak; I am put forth a more positive energy when I walk into a room/space – and most importantly, I know that I am on the right journey.
Part of the journey is also asking for help – and seeking it out – I have recently discovered my health insurance provides a health and wellness coach who has the training to work with bariatric surgery patients. So twice a month, I will be on a call with my new coach.
Nothing stands in the way of attending my support groups as it is there that I continue to learn new ideas or skill sets to be successful on this journey.
Back to the question…where do I see myself in two years? I don’t know yet BUT this much I do now right now…I will be in a new chapter of my journey and I will be much healthier, smaller and even more confident. So Bryan and the others who ask this question, I will revisit this question as I start to see where I am heading and what I am seeing.
Keep watching…you won’t be disappointed.
P.S. My new listening material…Making the Shift by Dr. Wayne Dyer ”
“The Shift” is a call to become more conscious, to move from aimless Ambition . . . to Meaning and purpose.
P.P. S My other re-read “Becoming the Obvious Choice” by Bryan Dodge and David Cottrell “It is your responsiblity to know and understand your talents, values and desires.”